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What is stress? Question from a kid

What is stress? Question from a kid

We (Me, my wife and two kids) came back to home after the book cover launch program of my forthcoming book “Ducks Quack Eagles Soar”. Another fifteen of my friends also revealing their book cover with 10 minutes speech about their book during the occasion. We started conversing about that event after our dinner. My 10-year-old son started asking questions as usual. One of the thought-provoking questions he asked, “Dad, one of your friends launching a book and she is speaking about something called STRESS, I am not able to understand, could you please explain?”. I was on a trap. I am always finding an easy way, told my son, “Why don’t you check with your mum? I am sure, she will clarify you in a better way”. The fact was, I don’t know how to explain to my son.

My wife started giving examples to explain. See, when your teacher giving a lot of homework, how do you feel? He simply said, when I found drivel, simply I don’t do. Don’t you feel exasperated? Wife asked, why I supposed to feel aggravated, that’s her fault, it’s my son’s reply. How do you feel when your Arabic teacher asked the lessons from you when you were not ready, and you know he will shatter you? I know, he will weary me, so I will find all the ways to get an excuse, son elucidated. The session is on for a couple of minutes with numerous situational interrogations between my wife and son, finally my wife stare at me and hard-pressed my son back to me. I don’t find a seepage this time, I just swerved him another topic.

It hit me hard. We contemplate, we are the adults having all kind of problems in life which is creating a lot of stress on us. When we grow in age, ideally our happiness also should increase along with our maturity, but what happened was we are amassing a lot of pessimism and lost the clarity to realize the world as is. We are seeing it through our hoarded nonsense, and we lost our novelty. The kids never sighted anything as a problem, they are just approaching it as an event and take situational decisions instinctively. They never distinguished anything as good or bad, positive or negative events, they just look at as events, and they perform as best as they can. Whatever they are doing, they are doing with absolute involvement. That’s the reason their world is always Joyful and colorful. What we are doing at times is without any interest and involvement that leads us to stress.

Let’s start consciously focusing on removing the debris what we accrued over the period.

Let’s keep the child alive inside on us. I hope that’s the way to freedom!

So what, what next?

So what, what next?

We can see two classes of folks in our life or we are part of one these group.

– Maintenance Oriented

– Growth Oriented

Maintenance-oriented people always desire to stay where they are today. They are worrying too much about their safety and security for their life. They always believe they are in their comfort zone. They always quote “Should not be rapacious, Have the Enough Mindset, so that, Life will be calm all the time, No pressure No Strain”. Get up in the morning (9 AM in the early morning for most of them), do something for the day and go to bed is their daily routine. If they go through a little bit of hassle on their daily routine, instantly they will start pointing to other people, situation, environment or even God. Simple disappointments made their life despondent. Now, all their quotation marks and philosophies will go away. They will be kept on probing and accusing the outside world, there is a conspiracy against them, that’s why they are going through the tough condition and they botched every time. Their primary lifestyle itself finding fault with everyone and everywhere. They are part of a problem finding group and never ever become the part of solution providing groups. Their definition of success is always if today goes peaceful, I am very successful.

The other group of people called Growth Oriented and they are the one makes this world as a better place for yesterday, today and tomorrow. They never ever get contented of what they have today. It’s not about avaricious. The fervor inside them, keep on pushing them to move on and go beyond their limitations irrespective of the result becomes success or failure. They are the leaders and the creators of this world, what we all are enjoying today. They never ever fear about the future. Their simple way of life is “whatever is going to happen, let it happen, It’s another experience in my life”. Their description of success is, “Keep Going, Keep Growing, When I reach the destination, I will find a new beginning there and I will start my new Journey”.

After every success, let’s celebrate the success and ask the question to ourselves, “So What? What Next?” and fix a new destiny and keep going.

I wish you all would be the part of a group which is making this world is a better place for today and tomorrow.